I would definitely recommend TIGIs Control Freak Shampoo and Conditioner to help you get your hair under control. If you must wash your hair everyday ensure your use a shampoo and conditioner designed for daily use, and try conditioning your hair from the inside by taking a food supplement such as Proto-cols Collagen Capsules. Washing your hair every other day would be better as daily washing strips the hair of its natural oils and is often unnecessary. ...More >
If you are using effective styling products you will probably find that you do not need to wash your hair everyday. Try dampening your hair down with a bottle of water spray before styling and then use light but strong products to style with. Too much hairspray and mousse can be very heavy on the hair and is probably the main reason why you are having to wash your hair daily.
If you wear you hair down one day, try wearing it up the next, messy up dos have been fashionable for quite a while and it looks like they are going to be around to stay for some time yet. Long thick hair is great for wearing up and styling into funky looking up dos, experiment with different hair accessories too.
Many people find that by straightening their hair after washing and drying, it is then much more manageable and easy to control the next day. You could also try tying your hair up at night or putting into plaits so that the next day there will be less tangles to deal with.
Whatever you do the most important thing to remember is to keep your hair in the best condition possible and always apply protective products on your hair before using heated appliances.